The issue here is that you're describing women/the opposite sex as something to "get" or "pull." It's not a healthy mindset, and it's going to attract unhealthy people.

Every woman -- every person -- you meet is a blank slate. Every interaction is a blank slate. Relationships really aren't a numbers game or a set of statistics. Not on a person-to-person level. Having ideals and preferences is important, but the truth is that our hearts are a lot freer than that, and relationships aren't planned. They're organic.

I'm not criticizing you, because you were simply describing a phenomenon you and many others have observed. My point is simply that the culture around "getting" women is a self-fulfilling cycle of misery, and men are better off removing themselves from the game and taking every social interaction as it comes. People who do this tend to end up in happy relationships, based on what I've seen!