I see this as the crux of so much of the current arrogant, empathy-less trend in our culture. People simply do not believe — or want to believe — that “it” could or will happen to them. Whether it’s covid, poverty, lipedema, unexpected pregnancies, loss of workers, or any kind of misfortune, “it” remains an impossibility until it either a) is acknowledged as possible (at least in the worldview of deniers) or b) actually happens to them (the more realistic, typical end of the denial sequence).

I feel that this is at the heart of anti-vaxxer sentiments, anti-poor people vitriol, or just generally anti-human-empathy beliefs and behaviors. But “it,” CAN happen to them/you/me. Admitting that and choosing to deal with it by fostering an empathetic, realistic mindset is harder than denial (at first, anyway), but it’s the only way to be a good person. It’s the only way to be mature.

Shannon, your voice has been a blessing to so many people. And your determination to encourage empathy and fight denier mindsets is vital work — even if you can’t do it as consistently as some of us (who are privileged and healthy) say you should. I hope you take plenty of pride in this work and in who you are! Thank you for being honest, and for trying to do so in a way that makes a true impact on the world.