As another commenter mentioned, fear is an emotion inflicted on someone, shame is an emotion they inflict on themselves. If you feel shame, usually it's trying to help you learn something - if you feel EXCESSIVE shame, it's likely a symptom of anxiety and of course you deserve support as YOU seek help and try to handle it.

But if simply pointing out a mistake or incorrect statement, if expressing emotional hurt or an unmet need is shaming...that's simply not rational. It's not sustainable either. Why must everything be viewed as a challenge to one's masculinity or autonomy? Why is it a power dynamic? From experience I'll tell you that MOST women - at least in my own life and circle - simply do not think of relationships this way.

We aren't battling for control or respect. We're working together to meet common, human goals. I wish more men could step out of their own way and open themselves up to that kind of dynamic, instead.

Regardless, this was a thoughtful, insightful piece and I enjoyed reading it. Thanks for sharing!